Chapter 7_VERBAL MESSAGES

I would to share some story.....when i was in primary school...a lot of things happened...i know that time i was a kid and does not no about life...so, i has a lot of friend. But, this girl.....i don't know what happened to her but she never felt satisfied about me even though i've done nothing to her. One day, i ask her why she hate me? she said that i stole her boyfriend from her..so i laugh and said that i didn't shole her boy and why should i need to do that........she still felt satisfied....then, she accused me...she told to my friends that i has backstep them by saying the words that i never said. So, my friends believed all she said......about 3 months my friends don't want to greet me talk to me..and that time, i remembered that i have no one except the truth...that time also made me don't wanna go to school......my mum has advice me that i need to solve and face the problems..........so, i brave and strong myself to face the problems that she had been created. It takes to much time to make them believe to me..........luckily, i had proof and they believe.....then, what i do is......i revenge to the girls.i do the same thing that she had do to me.i want she to feel what i had felt for 3 months ago.........i did it....and at the end of school........we apologies what we had do to each other and become friend.......

Chapter 6_UNIVERSALS OF VERBAL AND NONVERBAL MSGS

In this chapter, we have learn so much thing that related to our life.....just i said, interpersonal communication are related in our daily life.......ermmmm.......today, my story must be related to this chapter. We as a human being, our action, behavior, attitudes is more to nonverbal messages than verbal. This is based on my experience.....when someone dislike us, they won't show in verbal messages but they would show in nonverbal messages...actually, i just broke up with my boy which i really love...like or not i have to face the truth and i have to go on with my life...we broke up because of the distance, the changes of attitudes between us...and also heart...last week, he use nonverbal messages to me...whereby he doesn't messages me, told me that he would busy in that week....ok, i as he girlfriend understand because i also a student like him...day by day, he totally different....he become cold to me, everything that out from his mouth negative.....i realize that he change a lot but unfortunately, he denied the changes of himself......by using nonverbal messages, he doesn't want to solve the problem between us, do not care about me anymore, and saying that i'm actually change....from that messages, i understand he doesn't feel the same...he won't understand that i face so much problem here than him....what i'm trying to said are make him more hate me.....i don't understand why he act and change like that.....the nonverbal that he gave to me make me more suffer....don't he felt so..........i really don't understand what is he think.........even though, our relationship was ended, i still wondering about his changes and why he treat me like i don't have any feeling.........

Chapter 5_LISTENING

The purposes and payoffs of listenings are:
-Listening
-Relating
-Influencing
-Paying
-Helping
There are also 5 stages of listening process:

1) Receiving
2) Understanding
3) Remembering
4) Evaluating
5) Responding

This story are happened when i was in UiTM. When the forest back of SRI GADING was giving an instructions to be cutted, there are so many myths story that i heard. Ok, it was good because at the back of Gading the forest had to b cut, this is because we as a student who live at that forest were not feel afraid to go to the toilet or do other things at night. When the trees had been cutted, there are a lot of things had happened such as one week the whole Gading doesn't have any water, so we need to take the water at surau downstairs at level 1. We need to carried the pail full with water upstairs to level 5. It makes us feel exhausted. I heard a lot of people said about this problems. Others said that this is because of the instructions at the back of Gading. Some said that 'things' who live in that jungle want to find a new place for them. So, at first i received the myths story. Then i make myself understand by watching and heard the things happened at hostel. When i feel that story was stick in my head, i keep on remembering that 'they' need a new place. So, when it stick in my head i had respond to the myths whereby, i follow my sisters back home everyday without thinking the consequences. When i come back to Gading, i feel very uncomfortable because i actually feel afraid to what people had said. Until now, i don't like to live at hostel because of a lot of stories i heard about lived at hostel. I know, it make myself unindependent but what to do..............

chapter 4_PERCEPTION

Talking about perception, it is the most important in our daily life. For example, first time we meet someone, the first impression we see and predict he/she personality. If what we see at first is good, for sure it is good until the end and whatevermore. Eventhough, he/she is not, that is why first impression influence our perception to someone. This is related to my experience. I met someone that i don't like at first but until now, we are still friends. I met her at first, i felt like she wasn't good friend to be with. This is because she was to social. Her friends are taking drugs, smoking and many more and my perception that time i've been thinking that maybe she also like that. I'm not saying that i am a good person but i really want to avoid from that kind of people. So, my first met was i have been introduce by my friends Nur Fazreena Hani, that also the person friend. Before i forget, the person name is Nur Syafiqah. This incident happened when we were in secondary school. So, we were talking to each other then we become close friend. I know now that eventhough she've been friends with the person that taking drugs or anything, thank god that she's not influence by them. So, i've wrong perception towards her. Now i feel that if we doesn't know that person, we cannot judge them by physical appearance. Don't judge a book by its cover.

chapter 1

How would you describe the optimum level for relationship ambiguity? this make me remember with my close frenz at politeknik......we usually hang out but this time we were not like we in secondary school.this is because we were study at different place...and you know, our holiday always clash.....sometime when i remembered our relationship, i feel upset that we were not together again...but when we met, i feel that she doesn't care about me and always talk about her frenz at poli.......i feel that she didn't care about me anymore..i want to know why but........i still didn't get the answer of our relationship.....

interpersonal (chapter 1)

first lesson we learn about communication...there are 3 types of communication...such as dyadic primacy,dyadic coalitions and dyadic consciousness..